Building Bridges instead of Walls

Each of us is a universe. A unique world, made up of thoughts, feelings, emotions, beliefs, values, images, and sounds that we create and store. And no universe is the same. Each one operates at its own pace, with its own order. Yet, we connect with each other as if we shared the same stage. Each of us accepts, commits to being a character in the other person's story, when we both have something to learn from each other. It's as if, on an unconscious level, there were scheduled meetings. At such time, at such place, to learn such lesson.

We exchange information between us on an unconscious and conscious level. We help each other. When one learns and grows, the other automatically does too. And when the lessons are learned, the energy between the two universes harmonized, we move away, following a new path. This is how people come and go from our lives. When they enter, they bring the seed of what we need to evolve within ourselves at that very moment. And when they leave, our perspective has changed, our vision has broadened, our focus has shifted, toward another "encounter."

But there are those who remain in our lives. This is the case with family. Not just blood family, but also soul family. Those with whom we came to have closer, more intimate relationships. With family, we make a commitment to remain in each other's lives for longer. The evolutionary leap is greater.

But the experience isn't always easy. When two universes come together, there may be some disharmony at first. These are the people who bring us the greatest learning. When there's discomfort, unease, negative emotions. When one universe affects the other, triggering negative emotions. Because this other universe reflects what's not yet in harmony, at peace within us. It's like a bell, giving us warnings. "Look here! Look there!"

When we close ourselves off in our own universe, isolating ourselves excessively from others, we create protective walls that, while seemingly seem to give us security, actually prevent us from establishing connections with others. They prevent us from being open to learning from others, from engaging in exchanges with others. They create blocks within ourselves. They isolate us in our own world. There is no renewal here, no learning, no possibility of growth, expansion, and evolution. There is, indeed, stagnation.

But when bridges are built between two universes, the possibility of renewal and growth is created.

For this to happen, the walls that seem to protect us must fall. There must be a desire to go beyond our own world. To discover, to conquer new worlds. To be imbued with a sense of curiosity, a desire for expansion. This is how we meet new people in our lives. When we have a desire to expand our environment, our social circle, to meet new people. We must be receptive to this. To leave the environment that is familiar and known, safe, and head into the unknown, take risks, and venture out. We must realize that the unknown becomes known when we open ourselves to it. It becomes familiar.

Communication is one of the most important ways to build bridges between people. It's through communication that we get to know each other and become familiar with them. But unfortunately, we don't always know how to communicate properly with others. This can lead to many conflicts. Most of us communicate on a superficial level. Exchanging everyday information, talking about the weather, the news, other people's lives, etc. But true communication only happens when each of us is prepared to communicate from the heart. When it's a deeper, soul-level communication. Not everyone is receptive to this, as it requires the walls we use to protect ourselves to fall. Only when we realize that the other one is a being like us, with the same fears and insecurities, the same walls, can we allow this communication to take place. When this happens, a very strong bond is created between two people. When communication is true and deep, it's possible to grow with the other person more consciously. Perceiving what the other one feels, what their vision of life is like. A connection of great trust is created. We truly connect with the other person, on a soul level.

This is how we create strong bonds with others, good friendships, good partnerships. When we allow the other one to know us as we truly are, without walls. When we open the door for the other person to enter our universe.

But to establish a good connection with another person, we need to realize that they may have a different vision of life than our own. We need to develop the ability to accept this difference and put ourselves in their shoes. We need to see the world through their eyes, feel what they feel. To understand where they come from, what life stories they've been through that may trigger certain reactions we don't understand. These reactions arise from insecurities and fears due to less positive experiences. Only then can we avoid reacting on the same level. By establishing a deeper and stronger connection, by sharing the deepest part of us.

Silence is an essential component of communication itself.

We might think that communication doesn't happen in silence, but in reality, this is where the deepest communication occurs, where one hears the other's feelings. It's communication at the highest level, which can't be reduced to words. It's communicating from the heart. It's essential to know how to be silent with another person. What happens is that most of the time, we're so used to the noise and information coming from all sides that when there's silence, there's discomfort. But this is the only form of communication that exists that is true and clear. While words can be used to disguise and camouflage emotions and feelings, when communicating from the heart, we can't hide what we feel. It's crystal clear.

And more important than communicating with others is communicating with ourselves. Understanding our internal communication, our internal dialogue, the inner voices we hear. Whether they are positive or negative. Whether they empower us or weaken us. For communication with others will reflect this. Understanding the words we use frequently and unconsciously in our vocabulary. Whether they create walls or bridges, whether they trigger insecurities and fears, whether they empower us and fill us with love, or whether they limit and imprison us. Because it's through this internal communication that we will connect with others or not. Whether in a more pleasant way or not. Whether more spontaneously or not.

When we accept breaking down our protective walls and decide to trust that others are similar to us, with the same problems, insecurities, and fears, we open a door to create new connections with others, we build bridges. We realize we're not alone and isolated in our world. This is when our relationships become stronger and deeper, as we share more. We feel more filled with love because we give more of ourselves to others and appreciate them more. Life is renewed within us. We feel like we belong to a huge family.