Mirror of Mine

People are attracted to each other according to their energetic vibration. Resonance. This is when two beings or particles are at the same energetic vibration. This is how we are attracted to certain people, places, situations, etc. Because we are in resonance with it. Because our internal vibration identifies with the vibration of the other person, place, or thing. It's as if the two are vibrating the same musical note. "Resonance occurs when one field responds sympathetically to another, and they exchange energy with each other." They are on the same frequency. One is a mirror of the other. A very clear example is when we don't like ourselves, we attract people who don't like us back. When we experience rejection, it's because in us vibrates the energetic information that we don't like ourselves. Others merely mirror this. If we value money too much, we attract people around us who probably have significant money problems and therefore overvalue it. Like attracts like.

Knowing this, we can thus shift our frequency when something isn't right by changing our way of thinking. By changing this, the emotions we nourish also change, and our energetic vibration changes. To be accepted and loved, we begin by accepting and loving ourselves first. Nurturing emotions of appreciation for ourselves. And people, things, and circumstances change too.

Nothing is coincidence. Contrary to what it seems, there is an invisible order that connects everything and everyone and brings us the necessary lessons for our evolution, at the exact moment, attracting the exact person, situation, place, and thing to help us go beyond. It's as if there was an invisible plan for each of us, and each of these lessons contributes to that plan.

Each person we encounter in our lives is a mirror of ourselves. Each one reflects a part of us. It presents as an opportunity to get to know ourselves, to become aware of who we are. To become aware of our qualities, thoughts, beliefs, values, character traits, emotions, reactions, etc. And we can seize this opportunity to illuminate the parts of ourselves that are still in the shadows, that cause discomfort and disharmony, that we consider imperfect and immature, different, unloved, that are not understood or accepted by us.

Each of these shadow parts can be selfish, manipulative, jealous, dress as a victim, be critical and demanding, isolate itself, build walls, overly emotional, possessive, materialistic, needy, overly protective, calculator, envious, etc. There may be many parts of us yet to evolve. But there are also more positive parts of ourselves that we're not aware of, such as our most playful, purest part, the teacher within us, the protective mother, the courageous, strong, confident, innocent, leader, wise, clairvoyant, loving part, etc.

And what we consider imperfect in ourselves can be equally varied, from physical characteristics of our bodies to abilities we have or lack. It all depends on what we, or society, considers to be the ideal standard. And anything that doesn't meet that standard is considered imperfect.

Part of our evolution involves

accepting all these mirrors

around us, illuminating all our facets through them. Bringing to consciousness the parts of ourselves that are less evolved and elevating them to a new way of being. Recognizing the most positive parts of ourselves and accepting what we consider imperfect, what falls outside the norm established by society, what is different, what may not be accepted by others, what bothers us, or what is not positive. Only in this way can we evolve what is not yet illuminated, that is, the parts of ourselves that are far from our heart.

How can we evolve something within ourselves that we refuse to accept as less evolved, that is in shadow, that we don't recognize within ourselves? How do we evolve it when we reject that part? We pretend we don't have it. We deny it. We hide it from ourselves.

What happens is that our society has educated us to be perfect, to meet certain standards. This has created in us an anxiety to fulfill this role. But it hasn't taught us to accept being outside of this standard, to be different, to accept what in us isn't yet good or beautiful, enlightened, or evolved. To look at all of this with detachment and see it as something to be recognized within ourselves and that needs to be understood and accepted. To accept it as a valid learning experience as well. Because sometimes, it's through this that true understanding occurs. It has focused us on goals, objectives, and success, but it hasn't taught us to accept defeats and to live with them, to overcome them. To look at them and ask ourselves, "What do I learn from this defeat? Why did I go through this? What does life want to teach me with this?"

What really happens is that by not accepting everything that is less good or less beautiful in us, or that makes us different from others, we become obsessed with it, giving it a huge space in our lives. We identify ourselves with it. And our life becomes this. We accumulate anger against ourselves, diminish and hide ourselves. And because we don't face it, acknowledge it, and accept it, it always emerges in our lives sooner or later to bother us, create conflicts, and disharmony. And that's why each person that comes our way shows us this within ourselves, what is still unresolved, not accepted. This is why discomfort, conflicts, and disharmony arise.

If we don't accept our bodies, we attract people who criticize our bodies, or we react to those who criticize others' bodies. It becomes a topic that bothers us and to which we are very sensitive. The thoughts that exist within us are reflected in the people around us. They give life to our thoughts, take on their role. They become characters in our internal dialogue. How can we solve this?

Creating harmony within ourselves so that there may be harmony outside of us.

And this harmonization involves making peace within ourselves, with our body, our characteristics, and what bothers us. Appreciating this part of ourselves. Finding its beauty in it, even if it's so different from others. And as we change our view of ourselves, our reflection in the mirror changes as well. We'll realize that what bothered us so much about ourselves in one environment (group or place) isn't as important in another environment (group or place), and can even be a source of great appreciation.

Based on the Ho'Oponopono technique

"I'm so sorry! I forgive you! I love you! Thank you!"

This is how we illuminate the parts of ourselves that are still in the shadows. That haven't yet evolved. That still act immaturely and out of alignment with our heart. The parts of ourselves that we have difficulty accepting and that we need to harmonize.

To every person, thing, place, part of us that exists in our lives and causes us discomfort, conflict, and disharmony.

I'm so sorry! I'm so sorry for causing you discomfort, for hurting you, for not knowing how to best express my love for you, for having difficulty in accepting you, for not being able to show you my highest side.

I forgive you! I forgive you for the discomfort you cause me, because I know it's the only way I can become aware of the part of me that needs to evolve. I forgive you because you help me reach the limit I need to change my perspective, change my attitude. I forgive you because through you, I forgive myself.

I love you! I love you because you reflect the part of me that is still imperfect, immature, that doesn't yet know how to love, that is still far from my heart. I love you and through my unconditional love, I call this part of me to my heart, to return to the path of Love. I love you because through you, I learn to love myself in all aspects.

Thank you! I thank you because you mirror the part of me that is still in shadow. I thank you for appearing in my life and giving me the opportunity to recognize my shadow, to illuminate it, to make it grow. I thank you because you are the right person (thing, place, part of me), at the right time, in the right place, to learn this lesson. Through you, I evolve, I gain more light.