Be a King or a Queen

Be a King or Queen. Nothing less than that.

What does this mean? What does it mean to be King or Queen of our life? It's to be our own authority figure, to rule our own life, making our own decisions, taking responsibility for our choices. It's not letting anyone else take control of our own life.

Most of us live without any personal power. Handing over to others the responsibility for making decisions, choices, etc. And so we live with our heads down, being enslaved by others. Placing in their hands the scepter that belongs to us, our own power. We make decisions based on what others think and feel, instead of making them by being in touch with our feelings, observing our emotions. Because they show us how is our power in relation to others.

When we live a life without any personal power, we bow down to others, becoming dependent on others. What others say, think, or feel comes first when we make our decisions. And if others don't also embrace their personal power and depend on others, it becomes a succession of handing over one's personal power. Each person's personal power is always in the hands of their neighbor.

Most people live like this, without any personal power. They place their personal power, the key to their own life, in the hands of others, in something outside of themselves. Thinking everything depends on others, on situations happening outside of themselves.

In this crisis the world is going through, how many people are holding back, saying it's not worth doing anything because of the crisis? They are placing their personal power outside of themselves. What if they changed this perspective?

What if they grabbed their

sceptre of personal power

and admit: the crisis exists, but I can overcome the situation. How? By developing creativity to open new paths. It's in the creative world, of new ideas, that the solution to overcoming any obstacle lies. It's thinking positively, realizing that we can change something, and seeing new possibilities where we couldn't see them before. Because they've always been there, we just haven't seen them due to our own negative thinking. It's this shift in perspective that needs to happen. And with it, we reclaim our personal power.

In relationships of any kind, family, friendship, or romantic, we also lose our personal power to others. We confuse loving with giving up our personal power. The image associated with this is "Giving our heart to another because we love them." Giving our heart to another is losing our personal power because our heart is our center of love, where we can love ourselves and others, it's our source of love. When we give it away, we lose the ability to love ourselves, and the other person doesn't always have the capacity to return that love. For this to happen, the other person needed to be a high and pure being, without any less than good intentions. To love isn't to lose our personal power. When we truly feel love, we feel powerful. The other person nourishes our personal power, they don't take it away. This is how we can recognize true love. When we are with someone who makes us feel our own power, that's when we are truly loved. And here, there is no room for any kind of emotional blackmail. Emotional blackmail is a lack of personal power. We demand from the other person what we don't have, which is personal power. Because we also gave it to another person.

When we worry too much about what others think, we give them our personal power. We become imprisoned, we limit ourselves, we silence ourselves. We are not free beings. We live imprisoned by the handcuffs we allowed others to place on us. As long as we give space to what others think, we are not masters of our own life. We are puppets moved by the hands of others.

When we feel victimized by situations or people, we're not embracing our personal power. We're only victims because we place ourselves in the victim's position, lower than others. And when this happens, it's because others have a higher place than us in our own life; we place them on a pedestal. This happens because we're unable to see our own value, recognize our own power, and embrace it. We are not liking ourselves. We have no self-esteem.

But when we embrace our personal power, we feel powerful in life, we shine like a sun, we expand ourselves, we give ourselves to others. We feel loved. Everything is possible in this state because confidence is within us. We believe in ourselves more than others. And from this place, what others say, think, or feel takes second place in our life. We don't stop listening to them, but we listen to ourselves first. We value ourselves first.

We value what we feel first.

Because it's in our hearts that we will always find the answers to everything in our life. It's in our heart that we reclaim our power. It's our heart that must be at the center of our life, not others.

If we could imagine ourselves as King or Queen of our life, taking on our crown and scepter, what would we do? What decisions would we make? What choices would we make? What would be our perspective of the world, of others, from this higher place in relation to our own life?