Knowing to Love

We came to learn to love ourselves. And we must walk part of this journey alone. Life places us in situations of solitude and isolation so that we can learn to be in our own company, to live with ourselves.

For someone else to love us, we must first love ourselves. If we don't love ourselves, how can others do?

When we like someone, they become special to us, and we value them. And sometimes this value overrides our self-esteem. And that's where the problem lies. When we place another above ourselves and overvalue them, it has serious consequences for our Soul. Because we lose touch with It. The other person becomes the center of our lives, and we lose our personal power to them. This is what happens in many types of relationships - family, friendships, romantic relationships, etc.

We came to learn how to be in a relationship without losing our self-love, self-worth, and personal power. We must always be alert and in touch with our Soul.

The vast majority of romantic relationships are based on emotional deprivation. We've been taught that we are a half seeking another half. And that we need them to be happy, to experience Love. This image creates in us a dependence on the other person and an inability to be happy by ourselves. And above all, it places Love and happiness outside of ourselves, in the other person, when in reality they exist within us and all around us. It creates an enormous anxiety, unhappiness, and completely distracts us from ourselves. It delays our evolution because, instead of focusing on our lives, on self-fulfillment, on being happy, it creates the idea that we are not happy without the other person. And we end up not giving the world the best of ourselves, our Love. All because we assume we don't have it, that it's outside of us. And, more precisely, that it comes from the other person. It's as if the key to our happiness lies with someone else. It takes away our personal power and makes us give it to someone else. This is why deprivation in relationships creates so much conflict. Because one never gives what the other one needs and believes they should receive. Because where there is neediness, there is a void to be filled. And the other one doesn't always fill it completely. Because one doesn't always understand the other one's void. Because we all have different needs because we are all different, with different experiences.

In a relationship where each person

is a whole being,

where there is no dependence, no one overvalues the other, no one loses their personal power to the other, it's a complete, dynamic relationship that constantly nourishes itself, in which both beings evolve with each other. There's a constant exchange. And there are no demands on either side. Because no one is obligated to anything. Each person is in the relationship because they choose to be, not out of duty, obligation, or because one feels they need the other to be happy or to feel love. There are no expectations for the other person to be this or that, because there is no need for the other person to give us this or that. There is a greater companionship, understanding, tolerance, acceptance, and above all, patience. Seeing the other one from the Soul, as a being that is not perfect, and accepting this imperfection, because none of us is perfect while here on planet Earth.

This is the Greatest Love. The important thing is no longer needing the Love the other one has for us, but rather offering the Love we already feel, which already exists within us. The truth is that the other is merely a character who awakens the Love that already exists within us. They are the inspiration. But Love can be awakened by them, as by so many other things in our lives. From the moment we wake up until the moment we go to sleep, the opportunity to feel Love exists all around us. We need to know how to appreciate every moment, every being, every opportunity. And to do this, we need to be in touch with our Soul throughout the day. It's when we connect with It that we experience this Love. For the Love we seek is our Soul's Love for us. And only when we do something that allows us to connect with It do we feel this Love. This Love is available to all of us. And we don't need anyone to feel it. We just need to accept this Love.

It's allowing ourselves to feel this Love.

And the path to follow is through the heart. The key to accessing our Soul lies in the heart. It holds the power we have to connect to the sea of Love available within us and around us.

Appreciate every moment, every situation, every person, every being, every thing! Just appreciate it! Appreciate it with your heart!